Getting Over her

[Joe Redifer]

I agree about not letting the wife take the kid(s) to another state.  Many states don't have any kind of legalities set up between the two, so child support can be a bitch and it's almost always the guy who gets the shaft in those cases emotionally and financially.  They can say that you don't visit your kids even if you don't have the means to and that will screw you over on the child support stuff.

Also, I think it is far, far too easy to get married these days.  Lots of young people seem to do it almost out of impulse.  They think they know what they are doing, but they really don't.  That's one of the reasons why the divorce rate is up. 

[2X4]

Nothing stings you like bitch pain.  I've been there (not married but multiple-year GF).  While no on-line sancho was in the mix, I do think she was less than faithful.  At any rate, if you loved this person as I have to assume you did, then the feeling won't go away just because you are separated.  You have to accept that there is no escaping the pain.  You must do two things.  One, everything you do from now on you should always think about your kid.  On a side note, though I don't wish you any additional pain, Necro is absolutely right about the paternity test.  It isn't fair to anybody to live with false assumptions.  Secondly, to get through this time the best thing you can do is to keep your family and friends close to you.  Try to spend time with somebody every day, and though it sounds totally daytime tv, talk about it, seriously.

And for gods sake, don't come to video game forums for advice of this nature!

[esteban]

IMO, the paternity test is not an issue: you're gonna continue loving and caring about your child, regardless.

As Michael and others have already stated, establishing custody / visitation rights is of paramount importance right now. This is, IMO, the most difficult thing the original poster must work through.

[2X4]

IMO, the paternity test is not an issue: you're gonna continue loving and caring about your child, regardless.

As Michael and others have already stated, establishing custody / visitation rights is of paramount importance right now. This is, IMO, the most difficult thing the original poster must work through.

Well, ya tard, paternity is of paramount importance in establishing if any of that other shit is relevant, you see.

[esteban]

IMO, the paternity test is not an issue: you're gonna continue loving and caring about your child, regardless.

As Michael and others have already stated, establishing custody / visitation rights is of paramount importance right now. This is, IMO, the most difficult thing the original poster must work through.

Well, ya tard, paternity is of paramount importance in establishing if any of that other shit is relevant, you see.

You missed the point: the paternity test (child #2) doesn't change the relationship you have with child #1.  Regardless of the outcome of the paternity test, establishing custody / visitation rights is of paramount importance in the current situation. 

[2X4]

You are referring to child #1, I was referring to child #2.  So I think both of those issues are important.