If you don't have a PCE setup, you should get one. Then there will always be lots of cheap or reasonably priced games people can buy you as gifts
I do want one of these one day, but it falls into the same category as explained below for now.
If she doesn't want to give you games (which aren't any more difficult to purchase than anything else, but whatever floats her boat), the only OBEY related item I can think of is the Ys Legacy DVDs or the Ys Art Book; non-OBEY related gaming things aren't gifts, they're punishments, so I have no suggestions for FEKA/Nintendon't.
Thanks, books/cds like this are exactly the kind of suggestions I wanted. I already have PC Engine Gamer Volume One on my list, for example. The problem with used games is that she doesn't know anything about them and I'm extremely picky about their condition and price, and she knows it. I would opt for something shrinkwrapped first if possible, but if not I really only want complete items. So she has to know what is supposed to come with it and hope that it is in good enough condition for me to be happy with it. She wouldn't know that a loose turbochip is considered incomplete, for example - that it also comes with a jewel case and manual. And that's just most of the time! Some games were released as only the card, and it's stuff like that that confuses her. So I can't really give her a list of games I want and expect her to do the legwork.
It really just boils down to let me hunt for the games I want on my own. What would be helpful, if anyone knows of any - would be reputable online stores that directly sell older games. If I could link her the product on my Amazon wishlist, she wouldn't have to do anything special and I would have picked it out myself.
Then you can buy the games you want. If she is dead set on getting you a gift, ask for something small you want/need (shirt, socks, perfume for men, whatever else you are into), then get the rest in cash.
Ah, another one of the unspoken birthday rules, I'm afraid. Nobody here really likes to give cash, because we all have our own cash so it's kinda silly. I did try asking for some necessity items and she just told me that was dumb and that we could just buy those next time at the store ("that's not a birthday gift!")
http://www.stoneagegamer.com/turbo-everdrive-deluxe.html
I was considering asking for a few of these for sure.
Thanks for the suggestions guys! If you have anymore I'm all ears.