How the Xbox 360 ruined my life.

[_joshuaTurbo]

The following is a very very LONG story about a Marriage between two people falling apart.  Please don't waste your time reading this depressing story so close to the holidays.  Its just the ramblings of a sad sad lonely man...lol

Hey guys,

I guess I just feel like getting alot of crap of my chest and what the hell, this is as good a place as any.  Some of you may know me, some of you probably not.  I haven't posted much in the past month or so due to a heavy amount of BS going on in my life.  But anyway, my name is Josh, I'm Married to a woman I've been with for 12 years and we have 4 wonderful children..... here's my story:

Back in Feb. of 2008 My wife and I bought an Xbox 360.  For us, for our kids.. I was having a pretty good time with it, the xbox live arcade games are pretty good, and there is enough not terrible games to keep me interested.  So at the time I was happy with the investment.  At this time my Wife was at home with our newly born son Preston on maternal leave.  So she had really started playing on the 360 quite a bit more than anyone else in the house.  Towards the end of Feb. she was putting in at least 4-5 hours a day, not kidding, and trust me I am no stranger to getting addicted to video games, so I never thought anything of it.  She was mainly playing this MMO called Phantasy Star Universe.  She really was "Into" it.

This went on even after she went back to work full time in the beginning of March.  She's a nurse and worked weekends only.  She worked 3 days a week and got paid for 40 hours. Pretty sweet deal.  Now I noticed that she was spending almost all of her free time (not working, not taking care of kids while I was at work) playing PSU.  This literally was still going on all the way through april.  And I was really starting to get concerned about this.  I know that when someone gets into something new like hardcore and its the cool thing, but two freaking months?  And not to say I'm the kind of guy who needs his woman to do all the cooking and cleaning, but during this time I was doing at leat 90% of all the housework, on top of working 5 days a week 45+ hours weekly.  I was starting to get Irritated.

In the beginning of May I was really taking a long look at this whole situation, not only has my wife and I barely spoken to each other,but there has also been no "I love you's", no "sex", no communication, and no us...  I had mentioned to her that I think she is playing way too much, and she got insanely defensive and this issue created many arguments.  I remember one day specifically that she logged on from 8am to 1am the next day.  The kids wanted to do stuff with their mommy and I had bugged her a couple times to come outside do something with us, but she wouldn't budge, I remember at one point I think around 12 noon she said "one more run"  And then hours later I walk back in and say "well?"  and she just gave me the look of death.  So I decided to start to really pay some attention at what was going on,  Weird things were happening like if I was walking into the room She would quickly stop saying what she was saying, or else just turn the TV off as I was approaching, I was really starting to wonder what the hell was going on so I created an Xbox live account and friended her- with her knowledge - I noticed that she seemed to be playing less and less when I was at home.  but when I went to work she would log on literally right after I drove out of the driveway, and sign off around the same time I left work at night.  (I work in a programming office so I sit online all night long)  Yea you could call it keeping tabs on her or whatever, but I was getting freaking worried.

So this was still going on for a few more weeks, when my free month of xbox live came to an end, and I told my wife that it was silly for us both to pay this monthly fee when we could just share hers.  She of course was not too happy about that, but she said we could do that.  So I started to play games on her account, when I would log on to play stuff like PacMan CE or N+ she would like hover over me almost nervously, if she would get a message or a game invite she'd quickly say oh let me see it, or just delete it.  I was starting to really freak out, was it something she didn't want me to see?  Was she that into this video game system that she had to know everything her friends were doing?

So the next time I logged on, I did it without her being around, and about 2 minutes after I got on I got message after message.  I wasn't going to look, I really wasn't but it was just killing me, I had to know what all this crap was about.  So I clicked on one of them.  It was a message from some guy asking her for pix of her tits again cause he deleted the originals or something.  I was like O.o!!  I mean I know how email spam gets around so its no big deal.  But then more messages were coming through and it was voice messages from other guys, and they knew her by her name!  It was disgusting, all kinds of crap about getting her off in the shower and what toys she wants to play with tonight...etc etc.  I was f*cking Irate!  She was at work so waited for her to get home, when she walked in I told her what I have seen, and she backtracked and stumbled through her words and told me that they are just a couple of smack talking douches that don't really know her and that I shouldn't worry about it.  And honestly I love my wife so I beleived her.

I had played online on the 360 a few times after that and a few messages were sent to her, but I wasn't looking at them, cause I didn't know if it was just messages for her or just some more smack talk or whatever, and I had way too many real world problems to deal with: Kids in school, bills, etc...  But one night I was trying to play some All Pro football 2K8 and I kept getting messages from the same person, like about 10 messages in 10 minutes.  And it was some guy saying he needed to hear my wifes voice cause he was horny or some shit.  So I sent him a message back saying basically look you little f*ck this is her husband and if you want to get reported keep this shit up.  So that night when she got home I asked her about this user and she basically said the same thing, except for this time started to talk a bit more about it saying theres a lot of freaks online and she doesn't know any of them, just likes to get items and meseta..etc  just as she was talking to me I saw her cell phone in her purse was vibrating.  She kind of hid it behind her like not to let me see what I thought was so obvious.

[rolins]

What a sad story. 
Sorry that it has come to this. At least you gave it a chance when you tried to reconnect with your wife. Best of luck to you and your children.

[ParanoiaDragon]

This story really hit my heart.  Last year, one of my best friends(of whom which I grew up with, we were practically born at the same time), left his wife for another woman(well, his wife didn't know about at first), & would even bring their daughter on dates with this whore he was seeing.  Eventually, it all spilled out, & he really turned into a complete jerk.  It's actually a long story, but, too much to write.  In the end, he lost everything, his relationship with God, his family, & all his friends.  The guy is a total buttmunch, & none of us, not even his parents or siblings have anything to do with him.  He recently had the gaul to send out wedding invitations to his wedding, & on their website, there's "their story" of how they met(ofcoarse, leaving out anything to do with his wife or kid).  Most people believe it's just the real person that he is.  I like to believe, somehow, that he has some kind of brain tumor that's effecting him, but, there's no way for us to force him to find out.  He's atleast on drugs because of his ridiculous mood swings, & just really wierd things he's been doing.  So, now we're friends with his wife, whom, I've only known since a little before they got married, but, my friend of 30+ years, is dead to me.  I feel like my whole childhood was a farce.

Anyways, just know, that, there's some crazy ish going on in the world, & it's not what God intended.  You're not the only one that's going thru this kind of stuff, so, don't feel like you're singled out.  I'm not sure there's anything else I can say, other then I pray you get your life back in track & never look back!  Hang in there!

[termis]

That's some f*cked up shit for sure.  I can't say much else, 'cept time will make things better...

[guyjin]

 

[WoodyXP]

+1

Sad story, turbostar.  I wish you the best and hopefully this new year will bring you some good.

[Tom]

It is sad a story. I don't know you or your wife, but I can tell you perfectly decent people can and do make the really stupidest decisions when it comes to dealing with their own internal/underlining issues. I'm sorry to say you have some really tough decisions in your near future. Part of being an adult is making the tough decision of either ending it now and getting a divorce or staying in a loveless marriage only for the sake of the kids. I had the chance to experience both and in my experience the latter was more painful. That's not to say the divorce process and the couple of years following won't be emotionally difficult either. It's going to be really tough. Keep your family close, find a healthy outlet for the pain, and try your hardest to be strong for your children - don't disconnect from them. Parents are the 'invincible' protectors, a child doesn't need the huge stress of worrying about their parents. And talk, talk, talk with your kids (not about the divorce but life and whatever else goes on,etc). More now that you did before. You're a single parent and you're going to have to provide the mental/emotional support of the absent parent when they're with you.

 I hope the divorce goes as smoothly as possible. Emotions are going to run high and things can change instantly during this process. I wish you the best of luck.

[Necromancer]

I've already made up my mind that I want a divorce...

Good choice.  Save up the evidence of her cheating (emotional if not physical); divorce court doesn't like unfaithful spouses.

Right now we are doing split custody, one week the kids are with me and the next is with her.  The kids are my main concern in all of this.  Most of the time I feel very selfish for doing what I am, I try my best to explain everything to them without blaming anyone or letting them know any more than- "mommy and daddy are not in love anymore"  Things of course are not that easy, but all in all it seems to be getting easier each day.  I'm working on getting myself my own appartment and just starting my life over...again. 

Don't feel guilty.  You made a valiant effort to win her back and she made zero effort in return; there's little more that you could've done, short of kicking her in the cunt and wearing her like a snowshoe (which would've been cathartic but not very helpful).  If you were to stay together for the kids' sake, she wouldn't change and you'd grow to resent her; by splitting up, she might wake up, smell the proverbial coffee, and hopefully start acting like a mother again (maybe giving you a chance at reconciliation down the line).  Best of luck to you and your brood.

[Michael Helgeson]

there are a few things that were failed to be mentioned in this little pity party like the fact that he is f*ckING another girl for the past few months that he met on the internet. that he hasn't help her with Christmas or anything that the kids need he is trying to make everyone think that he was the victim here but there are a lot of things he had failed to metion like the fact  that him and his girlfriend were sending naked pictures back and forth to each other over the internet and that he only works till midnight and i had his kids till 2:30 in the morning it doesn't not take that long to get back and fourth to his work. he also failed to metion that Jennifer had sold her xbox after he confronted her thinking that it might help the situation. so don't let him kid you in to think that it was all her fault. And josh i Can not believe you stooped so low and posted your personal business on the internet. how low can you go i just lost all respect and trust i ever had in you. Ive also kept my mouth shut for all of this but this was a new low for anybody and something had to be said. it sucks that you and jenny couldn't fix shit but don't post shit that isn't anybody else business

Are we to take it that you are a close friend or the wife here accessing Josh's account??? Either way, yea figured there was two sides to this story going on, so I am just going to stay reserved at the moment. Just hope regardless of the two adults doings, that the kids in the situation have good holidays.

[Necromancer]

Holy commandeered account, Batman!

By his own admission, Josh gave up on the relationship months ago so their ain't much wrong with scoring some strange while she's catting around (though it certainly kills the chances of reconciliation).

P.S. - Nekkid pics, nekkid pics, nekkid pics!

[Michael Helgeson]

By his own admission,yea he gave up, but in the same stroke he is leading her on by attending counseling, giving her false hope, which is low in its own right. I seriously think there are issues on both sides of this story, 2 guilty parties, not 1. Either way,sounds like both adults should cut their losses, and move on completely and finalize the divorce and get the kids some stability going, f*cking around can come later. The every other week thing wont work for long, kids need better stability then that during school, and they need both parents to stop thinking with their nether regions, and get their heads screwed on straight. This I can absolutely speak about from years of hands on experience, since I'm prob one of the very few single parents here.

[guyjin]

oh dear.

[Michael Helgeson]

Got this in a pm a few mins ago, anyone else get this pm also besides me???:

this is the wife
I am not or have i ever screwed around and all i do is take care if the kid i am the only stable they have hes off screwing his girlfriend which he has had for months btw while i have been doing my hardest to  save this i love him very much and we both made mistakes as for all his effort its crap he just is being hateful and i deserve better this should not have been made public as for my kids i am doing the best a single parent can they are in therapy and i don't talk bad about there father in front of them, i do not get the same respect from him.
 

turbos soon to be ex-wife

Personally, I don't want either of you two sad f*cks (Turbo,wife) to send me pms about your bull shit going on. I don't want to be dragged into your nonsense. It was your choices to make your relationship the victim of a petty emotional golden shower so to speak, and honestly, you both need to take this bull shit elsewhere losers. Im not impressed with either of you, and I feel damn sorry for your kids.

[Sinistron]

Well put Mike-
This is pretty f*cking sad- and shouldn't be aired out here of all places.  That said-  my opinions...

1) The very second a wife shows interest in online videogaming ESPECIALLY when you're not around is well past a red flag, no?  Wives only pretend to be into videogaming for their husbands' sakes- when you're not there they're usually watching Rachel Ray.
2) Why blame Xbox 360? Surely she must have posted pics of her titties and muff on the web from her laptop too... but why blame technology at all?  That right there is where tons of marriages fail- passing off blame and not accepting responsibility for anything.
3) An attempt at reconciliation- EVEN FOR THE KIDS SAKE- with some sloppy dog sugar talking up gaming sleaze and showing all of them titty pics- and screwing at least one of them- is like handing your balls back to your maker. 

[Michael Helgeson]

Well put Mike-
This is pretty f*cking sad- and shouldn't be aired out here of all places.  That said-  my opinions...

1) The very second a wife shows interest in online videogaming ESPECIALLY when you're not around is well past a red flag, no?  Wives only pretend to be into videogaming for their husbands' sakes- when you're not there they're usually watching Rachel Ray.
2) Why blame Xbox 360? Surely she must have posted pics of her titties and muff on the web from her laptop too... but why blame technology at all?  That right there is where tons of marriages fail- passing off blame and not accepting responsibility for anything.
3) An attempt at reconciliation- EVEN FOR THE KIDS SAKE- with some sloppy dog sugar talking up gaming sleaze and showing all of them titty pics- and screwing at least one of them- is like handing your balls back to your maker. 

Clearly someone who practices to smile exactly like Shaggy (another fellow with no balls to speak of) has no balls of his own to begin with.

"Zoinks Scoob, lets get back to the Pussy Van!"